According to expert Michael Canzian, there are a few things you need to consider when making the rules in your house. If you want to get them right the first time around, try to follow these guidelines.
1. Establish Why They’re Important
Rules are important because they establish how each member of the family looks after and respects the other. They primarily teach children what types of behavior are okay and not while demanding that adults control their actions.
2. Make Them Good
Good rules guide everyone’s behavior, so all interactions are positive. The best will say what behavior is expected, are easy to understand, and say what should be done over what to avoid doing.
3. Cover Everything You Need To
When making rules, you have to make sure you cover everything. That means you need rules about physical behavior, safety, manners, daily routines, and respect.
4. Involve the Right Players
You want to involve as many members of your family as possible in the rule-making process. Anyone over three years old should be allowed a say in the rules. As they get older, kids can become more involved in this process.
5. Review and Change Them Regularly
As children age and situations change, there will be times when rules need to change. For example, bedtimes and curfews may get extended. Similarly, if all the household chores are not getting done, you may need to change the arrangements, so the house stays tidy. Therefore, it is important that you routinely check on your rules and see if they are working satisfactorily. You can also use this time to remind everyone which rules are the most important.
6. Consider Ages and Abilities
Remember, children under four are going to need the rules to be simple and easy to follow. While each person will be different, you can likely expect the rules to be followed without guidance or explanation when children reach eight years. For example, they should remember brushing their teeth before going to bed when they stay at a friend’s house.
Rules are also important for teenagers. They can even help establish security for these people when their lives are changing. Therefore, you should give them appropriate rules and enforce them.
Rules are important for every house, but they should be established correctly. Following this guide can help you get the rules right, so they are followed and respected.