Disclaimer: This post is adult in nature and therefore only intended for a mature audience.
Play that is plucked directly from your most frequent, intimate fantasies can be one of the most fantastic and rewarding things you can do for your sex life; I really believe that. I am fairly certain that bringing scenes and scenarios I frequently think about when turned on or masturbating to the attention of my partner and making those things happen outside of the confines of my imagination has aided to our sex life never being dull, boring, or predictable. While some of the fantasies I have had didn’t hold up in real life very well, by exploring those facets of my sexuality, I learned more about myself because of them. However, some of the most intense orgasms I have had were because of that open-mindedness of myself and my partner to explore the reality of our fantasies, and one of the major outcomes of that has been a mutual appreciation for bondage and S&M.
While my partner and I have been indulging in frequent bondage sessions for a few years now, I still very much consider myself a novice. A certain level of discomfort is expected and awesome, but once that threshold has been crossed, I don’t crave for the situation to become more intense or painful. Because of that, I am more attracted to adult toys, accessories and restraints used in bondage play that are mostly targeted to beginners. These are the products that are made to not only perform a function–and perform it well–but there is also attention to comfort in the in these products, and I like that.
Recently, I have been playing with the Beginner Bondage Kit from MyPleasure. This kit includes a black mask, a small rubber whip, black and red wrist and ankle cuffs with black 3-ring nylon tethers, and a large black satin bag printed with the MyPleasure logo for safekeeping and storage.
Overall, this is a great starter kit, but it does have its faults. The most unimpressive of the items is the face mask. It is incredibly flimsy and the elastic band that secures it around your head feels as if someone spent hours stretching it out to the point where the mask repeatedly falls off my face. I guess that’s why they say the mask will fit most people and I suppose that I have a smaller-than-average head.
I used the rubber whip from this kit once before I changed it out for another rubber whip that I have had for years. It’s pretty much just a larger version of the whip I received in this kit, so I can’t say that I hate it, it’s just way too small. I prefer whips that are big enough to get your hand around so you can keep a firm grasp and deliver intense stinging sensations that teeter along that fine line between good pain and too much pain.
The red and black wrist and ankle cuffs are fantastic. Both sets are lined with a plush faux fur lining, which I love! I have had cuffs that weren’t lined with a plush material and I ended up having my skin break open against the roughness, which I wouldn’t recommend ever trying because it’s painful and terrible. Also, if you go out in public, people start giving you weird looks and asking what happened to you. Cuffs that are lined with a lovely, comfortable material is always a good idea. The cuffs use a Velcro closure which I have come to prefer over any other type of closure. Velcro gives you a range of adjustability, so even if you have very tiny wrists like I do, the cuffs will fit around them and your hands won’t slide out.
To attach the wrist cuffs together, or to attach the wrists to the ankles so you achieve a sort of hogtying effect, you can use the 3-ring nylon tethers. They have a heart-shaped D ring on them, which adds just a little bit of playfulness to the item, and each tether is 36 inches long and fully adjustable so you can make them as short as you need them to be.
I have a consistent bad track record with restraints, and these are no exception. However, I am done blaming the product. I am certain that I am the problem. You see, I break restraints. All of them, within the first few uses, regardless of what they are made out of. Now you would think that because the rings that clasp together are made of metal that I wouldn’t be able to break them, and I have been thinking that too, but I do. The only way I can explain what happens is by telling you that when I have an orgasm while restrained I suddenly, within seconds, morph into the Hulk. Nothing stands a chance.
On the right you see how the small metal ring keeps the closure attached to the heart-shaped D ring. On the left is what happened after I had an orgasm and it broke.
Again (I really feel like I have to stress this), I can’t blame the Beginner Bondage Kit for the fact that I broke it. It don’t think it’s a craftsmanship error or a product that isn’t made well because I have had quite a few other (some quite expensive) restraints that I have ended up breaking within the first three times that I’ve used them. Some really creepy amount of strength comes from me which I can’t help but be a little disappointed with, considering I break restraints, but also a little impressed, to be honest. Luckily, when it comes to restraints that use small metal rings, like those in this kit, it can be fixed with a pair of pliers, which is fortunate!
If you’re looking for an all-in-one solution to make your bondage fantasies come to life, I think the Beginner Bondage Kit is a good choice, especially considering it’s only $39.95. If you were to buy the sex accessories and a set of restraints and tethers individually, you would definitely end up paying more than the price of this kit, which makes it a pretty awesome buy.
I received the Beginner Bondage Kit from MyPleasure for review. No other compensation was received, and opinions are my own.