Does your husband seem a little down or distant? Looking for ideas to speak his love language? Here are a few ideas to get started.
You know your husband best, so try giving a gift that shows you pay attention to their likes and dislikes. For example, if he’s got a sweet tooth, select from an assortment of candy gift baskets. If he’s got an affinity for vintage matchbox cars, surprise him with an unexpected addition to his collection. Gifts don’t have to be overly expensive, but just remind him that you’ve been thinking of him.
Words of Affirmation
Sometimes all someone needs to turn the world right-side-up again is the feeling that they’re loved. If your husband’s been feeling a little low, he might need some reassurance that he’s appreciated. Find something about him to show gratitude for, and let him know. He’ll appreciate the boost, and you’ll feel happier in return.
Acts of Service
Everyone has tasks they’d rather not have to do, like washing the dishes or vacuuming. If you know your hubby is dreading a particular chore, this is an excellent opportunity to show your love by taking over the task to give him a break. He’s sure to appreciate the effort you make to help his life go a little smoother.
Moms with small children might find this love language hard to fulfill, but it’s just as important to spend quality, kid-free time with your spouse as it is to spend time with your kids. Plan a small, adults-only getaway together to look forward to, or just hire a sitter for the night and go on a date to do the same things you used to before you were married. If you’re married to an introvert, drop the kids off for a sleepover at a trusted family member’s house so you can get in some quiet Netflix and Chill time.
By far the easiest love language to act on, physical affection is especially important for a lot of men. Not only is sexual intimacy a big part of your marital relationship, but sometimes your husband just needs to know that you’re there for him. Hold hands, kiss, cuddle, anything that lets him know he’s not alone.
Loving your spouse is a choice you have to make every day. If you’ve noticed that your husband has been needing a little extra TLC lately, using these tips as a springboard for your own ideas can help you to personalize the gift, words, service, time, and affection you show to your spouse. Just remember that lifting your spouse means lifting your whole family.