A few months ago I was contacted via Twitter by a delightful and enthusiastic woman who was the blogger outreach and off-site review program coordinator from Eden Fantasys. Because a company is only as good as the person whom you have direct contact with, and because this woman was just downright awesome, I began a partnership between Woman Tribune and Eden Fantasys. I immediately began hosting contests for gift cards, reviewing products for our love and sex category, putting up their banners and telling all of my friends about how great their site was. I sent a lot of people to Eden Fantasys who spent a lot of money.
Everything regarding this partnership was going great and I was an enthusiastic affiliate. Not only did I link to them through banners, text links, posts and pages on Woman Tribune, I did the same on my other (far more liberal) website, Menstrual Poetry, which in turn generated more income for Eden Fantasys. I loved the sense of community I was overwhelmed with on the site and began contributing more reviews and became active in the forums. In short: I was in sex blogger community heaven.
One week ago a member of the community and highly prolific and well-known sex blogger Epiphora was banned from Eden Fantasys. A thread was posted in the Eden Fantasys forums announcing her banning, citing her as “having an adverse effect on the positive culture at EF” and claiming they receive “continuous complaints about her drama, rudeness, and overall negativity.”
Well, that’s all well and good. Eden Fantasys was disclosing that they had collectively decided to ban a member of the community and were just following their policy that they would be transparent regarding all the goings-on within the community. However, according to Epiphora’s post, which cited all of the posts she had made within the forums that could be construed as offensive over the past year, she had no warning about her so-called drama, rudeness, and overall negativity and after reading her forum contributions, I personally see nothing wrong with anything she brought up within the forums. She merely woke up that morning to an email from Eden Fantasys saying that she was banned and that the decision was final. What’s worth noting here is that it is also Eden Fantasys’ policy to warn their contributors of being out of line or offending others in the forums before banning them which is something that they did not do, again, according to Epiphora.
That was the first sign of drama within the time frame I had been a part of Eden Fantasys. I was not the only one who had been put-off by the forum post made by a staff member of the company who claimed transparency and many other contributors disagreed with the way Eden Fantasys had handled the situation.
It was this first straw that prompted me to look into Eden Fantasys the business and oh what a potluck of horrendous business practices I found.
Aag Blog, another very well-known sex blogger, had once been employed by Eden Fantasys. She was not paid for work she had completed. After taking the company owner (Fred Petrenko) to small claims court for the $1200 for work previously agreed upon, the company owner had sent a lawyer to her small town (undoubtedly racking up legal fees more than what Aag was owed) to get out of having to pay her on unfounded technicalities.
Essin’ Em has twoposts and there’s also one from That Toy Chick containing compelling and wildly unfortunate additions to Eden Fantasys’ business practices.
Fast-forward to last night. Maybe Maimed wrote an important, must-read article, Edenfantasys’s unethical technology is a self-referential black hole. Maybe Maimed’s post exposes how Eden Fantasys “has invested a staggering amount of time and money to develop and implement a technology platform that actively denies others the courtesy of link reciprocity.”
Because it’s just easier than trying to put it into my own, tech-y words, I am republishing Maybe Maimed’s Executive Summary of the article in full:
Internet sex toy retailer Web Merchants, Inc., which bills itself as the “sex shop you can trust” and does business under the name EdenFantasys, has implemented technology on their websites that actively interferes with contributors’ content, intercepts outgoing links, and alters republished content so that links in the original work are redirected to themselves. Using techniques widely acknowledged as unethical by Internet professionals and that are arguably in violation of major search engines’ policies, EdenFantasys’s publishing platform has effectively outsourced the task of “link farming” (a questionable Search Engine Marketing [SEM] technique) to sites with which they have “an ongoing relationship,” such as AlterNet.org, other large news hubs, and individual bloggers’ blogs.
Articles published on EdenFantasys websites, such as the “community” website SexIs Magazine, contain HTML crafted to look like links, but aren’t. When visited by a typical human user, a program written in JavaScript and included as part of the web pages is automatically downloaded and intercepts clicks on these “link-like” elements, fetching their intended destination from the server and redirecting users there. Due to the careful and deliberate implementation, the browser’s status bar is made to appear as though the link is legitimate, and that a destination is provided as expected.
For non-human visitors, including automated search engine indexing programs such as Googlebot, the “link” remains non-functional, making the article a search engine’s dead-end or “orphan” page whose only functional links are those whose destination is EdenFantasys’s own web presence. This makes EdenFantasys’ website(s) a self-referential black hole that provides no reciprocity for contributors who author content, nor for any website ostensibly “linked” to from article content. At the same time, EdenFantasys editors actively solicit inbound links from individuals and organizations through “link exchanges” and incentive programs such as “awards” and “free” sex toys, as well as syndicating SexIs Magazine content such that the content is programmatically altered in order to create multiple (real) inbound links to EdenFantasys’s websites after republication on their partner’s media channels.
Understandably, contributors of the Eden Fantasys community were concerned about what they had learned about Eden Fantasys and their unethical linking practices and a post was started in the forum about it. The post garnered 28 responses from equally concerned contributors asking Eden Fantasys for an explanation. Eden Fantasys, the company that had just been boasting about transparency deleted this forum thread. Luckily, someone took a screenshot of the thread in full before it was deleted, catching onto the fact that Eden Fantasys may not want everyone knowing about their linking practices and sensing a coverup in the making.
You see, when you click on a link through the Eden Fantasys website or SexIs you are taken to the out-of-site destination, if you have JavaScript enabled on your browser. If you disable JavaScript and try to click on those same links, they do nothing. Those links are illusions and are not real links and do not provide real link back properties like hits to your website or an income traffic alert on your blog administrative panel. You did not get that link back and search engines do not see that link at all.
Sex, Lies & Law began another thread on the forum addressing the deletion of the post and again, asking for Eden Fantasys to address this issue. With 5 replies and a post by a staff member, this thread was closed for discussion and a link to an “explanation” was provided.
The so-called explanation to the unethical linking practices was addressed by the president of Eden Fantasys and provided a lot of non-answers and failed examples. According to the president of Eden Fantasys, their linkfarming is a common practice used by other user-driven websites and without cheating people out of real links to their blogs from Eden Fantasys, malicious software would be inserted into the site and the entire site would die. It’s for our own good and oh wait, let’s throw in some strings of words like “AJAX with DotNET and JQuery frameworks” to jumble the minds of those who may have no idea what we are talking about so they can take us at our word.
After going through each and every website that was linked to having the same linking platform such as CNN, USA Today and cele|bitchy with JavaScript enabled, links to out-of-site destinations work just the same because they are real links. One logical explanation as to why is because Eden Fantasys is not using the same Javascript linking platform as any of those sites, as they claim.
After people congratulated the president of Eden Fantasys for providing such a “thorough and well-written explanation” I put in my two cents because Eden Fantasys is a company that is about transparency and who value the contributions of their community. Right?
My entire response to this thread was deleted in the amount of time it took me to take out the garbage. I unfortunately did not get a screenshot of my response on the site, but what I wrote is as follows:
“I am sorry, but this doesn’t look like a misunderstanding to me. Not in the slightest.
Sure, the entire basis of this post relies on addressing emotional gut reactions to people realizing that they are being cheated out of backlinks from Eden Fantasys while being told they must provide three links to EF in every review they publish on their websites, (ie: we do this for your own good and let’s cite a bunch of technological terms most of you won’t understand but keep the bottom line that without us doing this, the entire site would die and all of your hard work would be lost and oh yeah, we care about you and need you to keep EF alive.)
The biggest problem I have here is that when you go to any of the pages on Eden Fantasys and SexIs, after disabling Javascript, you are not able to click on any links because there are no links there. They are an illusion. However, after just going through every single other site you linked to and doing the exact same thing, disabling Javascript and then clicking on a link within any of the websites above, the links work and go to their out-of-site destination.
I do not need a paragraph of technological terms to tell me that in fact none of those sites use the same encapsulation as Eden Fantasys. If they did, they would function the same way EF does and they do not.
The encapsulation Eden Fantasys uses is against Google’s Webmaster Guidelines. It is not ethical and the people who were concerned about this violation were correct.
I will be leaving Eden Fantasys from this point forward and I urge all other contributors who care about the ethical standpoint of companies they work with to do the same.”
Someone responded to my post before it was deleted about how the explanation was not overly-technical and easy to understand and how people are reacting emotionally and not giving the president the chance to respond.
I’m sorry, but wasn’t this thread his response? I mean, this is the story he was going with and he did respond, now isn’t it the contributor’s turn to say something? Isn’t that why we have a forum, to ask questions and voice our concerns? Apparently not since my response was deleted. So I responded to the post of the person telling me I didn’t know what I was talking about, saying:
“I understand the problem that is trying to be avoided. I have been in the internet/blogging/web management world for over 9 years but the way it has been gone about is wrong. Hence why even the websites that were sorta-kinda but not really linked do not function the same as EF. That was my point, even though my post was deleted because I did not take this response at its word.”
This second contribution to the thread of a company who values transparency and the contribution of their community was also deleted in record timing. The reason? Exactly what I stated in my response. My replies were deleted because I did not say “Great job! Thanks for clearing that up!” But I wasn’t the only one whose replies were deleted, fiveotherreplies were also deleted.
After my second reply was deleted, I did not contribute anything else. It was obvious my contributions were not making Eden Fantasys look good and thus not welcome on their forums.
After spending some time away from the site, when I went back to see what else was going on, I found that I was not logged in. I have been banned by Eden Fantasys without my posts in any thread receiving any flags, without receiving a message, warning or email.
It is apparent now more than ever that Epiphora was banned just as she said she was. Without warning. How do I know that? Because it just happened to me. Not only that, but it also happened to others today.
Eden Fantasys is a sex toy shop and community no one can trust. They lie, cheat and break their own policies whenever it benefits them. They don’t give a damn about transparency or even giving their contributors the respect they have earned to speak their mind and ask questions. If you are current a reviewer for them, there are other far better, ethical and positive companies out there who are assets to the sex blogging community. I could not support Babeland and Good Vibrations enough.
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Good Vibrations has come out with something thoroughly awesome recently that is sure to excite all the sexy mamas out there. The brand new Good Vibrations Sexy Mama resource site contains all sorts of intriguing, eye-opening and absolute must-see/read/have information just for parents–because moms need to take some time out for themselves while they’re working hard caring for their families every day.
What is really great about this blog is that it is completely inclusive. Every single mother can relate to something that has been written and if a topic you’re interested in or looking for hasn’t been written about, why not write about it from your first-hand experience? Good Vibrations is currently looking for sexy mamas to contribute articles to the blog and have even come up with a few topic suggestions in case you’re very interested in contributing but are stuck for an idea. Some possible topics include:
How pregnancy and motherhood affected your sexuality
Humorous moments in talking to your kids about sex
Who are your Sexy Mama Role Models?
The challenges of balancing a sex life with having kids
If you’d like to contribute to the Good Vibrations Sexy Mama Blog, email your submissions to submissions@goodvibes.com.
This resource site will definitely give you pointers, ideas and support to continue being the awesome sexy mama that you are. They can also provide you with the tools to unleash that sexy goddess in you because remember, Good Vibrations is a provider of sex education and sex positive products.
January has already come and gone, and with it are the New Year’s resolutions that have already been lost. This year, more than any other year before, I noticed more and more people making New Year’s resolutions for their blogging life, rather than their day-to-day, and a great deal of those bloggers are still going strong. One of my favorite bloggers have been achieving the same resolution, and that is to participate in (and hopefully finish) the 365 Days project on Flickr.
For the past month I have seen both of these bloggers take a self-portrait and post it on their blogs each and every single day and it has been an awesomely eye-opening experience as the blog reader, to get a glimpse into the lives of the people behind some of my favorite blogs. It only took a month of me almost obsessively visiting these blogs just to see their new 365 self-portraits to want to join in on the fun, and so February 1st marks my official start with 365 Days. Woman Tribune has a brand new Flickr account (so be sure to connect with us over there,) and with this, I will also be blogging on a personal level once a day, which is something very new for me to be doing on Woman Tribune. As anyone who reads us regularly, personal anecdotes are weaved through a lot of the posts, but it is very rare for me to be uncensored and unapologetically open, so giving you all a more intimate, if you will, look at my day-to-day life is something that is actually very exciting for me to be dabbling with and I hope you all enjoy your daily look into my life.
For the first day of the 365 Days project, I wanted to share a little morsel of awesomeness I had become aware of a little over a month ago, and that is the new book from Babeland–Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex. This book is a sex advice, sex tips, how-to and self help book all rolled into one. It cuts through the traditional taboos society had already put in place for us a long, long time ago. It opens up discussions on sexual relationships when you’re trans, which is what I was first so giddily happy about when I had first opened it. Usually, when the topic of sex and sexuality comes up on a blog, we have a tendency to speak about sexual relationships as if they only happen between cisgendered beings, but what happens when someone just so happens to have been born with male genitalia but is truly a woman? This book opens up that discussion, which I loved. It of course features a great deal of sex toys, which is only natural for a book put out by a feminist-friendly sex toy shop whose ultimate goal is to sell more sex toys. It contains a multitude of sections on different sexual practices, lifestyles and bedroom play including, but not limited to, BDSM play and anal play. However, please remember that if you engage in any type of BDSM/bondage play, to do with a partner you know and trust and to have a safe word. It also covers practicing safe sex and how to be the safest you can possibly be when engaging in any type of sexual act, and a Q&A section that answers all of those pesky and sometimes embarrassing questions you may have about sex, like ‘Hey, what was that sound and is it supposed to come out of there?’ This book is definitely a must-read for any sexual being, regardless of age, sexual orientation, gender identity, or relationship status.
I went into a little more detail about Moregasm in a video review I recorded for my other blog, Menstrual Poetry, which deals with mostly feminist issues and activism. You can check out the video review of Moregasm below:
Every month Babeland hosts a series of workshops and events for women and couples at their three stores in L.E.S., SoHo, Brooklyn, and Seattle. What I love about Babeland is that they are completely pro-women and pro-feminist, as I have boasted about before, and many of their great events and workshops are completely free to attend so finances are not a factor in whether or not you can experience what Babeland has to offer.
This summer Babeland has some great events and workshops lined up and due to the economy, I know I am not about to shell out money I may not have for luxuries, so I am only highlighting the free events below; check them out!
Lower East Side, New York
July
Cheap Date Night
Friday, July 17, 8:00pm
Bring your sweetie to Babeland for a night of frugal flirting! Enjoy a free mini-workshop about the G-Spot and P-Spot while snacking on complimentary treats. The first 25 couples receive a free gift bag with Babeland goodies and discounted coupons to use that night for other cheap date night activities on the L.E.S. – including discount tickets to Sunshine Cinema’s midnight movie. Contact store for more information
August
Get Wet, Get Wild
Wednesday, August 5, 7:00pm
Escape the dog days of summer and come to Babeland to learn about the sexiest ways to beat the heat. Enjoy a free mini-workshop covering all of Babeland’s water-friendly toys and lubes and how to use them, while enjoying some refreshing treats. The first 25 attendees get to “fish” in Babeland’s pool of prizes! Contact store for more information
SoHo, New York
August
Medical Professionals Night
Monday, August 3, 8:00pm
Do you have patients or clients who are going through menopause, are pre-orgasmic or have concerns with erection or ejaculation control? Many people come into Babeland looking for books, toys, or lube that their therapist, doctor, or counselor recommended–let us give you a first-hand tour. Complimentary refreshments will be served and all attending with be entered to win a gift bag of Babeland goodies! Please RSVP to aimee@babeland.com by August 1, 2009. Contact store for more information
Brooklyn, New York
July
Sexy Moms Series: Sex During Pregnancy
Wednesday, July 29, 7:00pm
This month’s Sexy Moms event will feature Erica Lyon, a childbirth educator and founder/owner of Realbirth: Childbirth Education and Post-Partum Support, who will talk about “Sex During.” Perfect for expectant moms, new moms, their partners and anyone who would like to learn more! Complimentary refreshments. Co-sponsored by New Space for Women’s Health and Park Slope Parents. Contact store for more information
August
Babeland Brunch: Butt Sex
Sunday, August 2, 12:00pm.
Coffee and muffins and sex toys, oh my! Indulge both your appetite and your sexual curiosity at our monthly Babeland Brunch. Meet the Babeland staff, learn more about our products and enjoy complimentary caffeine and baked goods from Blue Sky Bakery. Enjoy this month’s free mini-workshop–Anal Sex 101. Contact store for more information
Get Wet, Get Wild
Thursday, August 13, 7:00pm
Escape the dog days of summer and come to Babeland to learn about the sexiest ways to beat the heat. Enjoy a free mini-workshop covering all of Babeland’s water-friendly toys and lubes and how to use them, while enjoying some refreshing treats. The first 25 attendees will each receive the chance to “fish” in Babeland’s pool of prizes. Contact store for more information
Sexy Moms Series: Sex and the New Parent
Wednesday, August 26, 7:00pm
new parents can discover how to put the zing back into their sex lives, with tips and advice from guest speaker (TBD). This topic is ideal for new moms, moms-to-be, and parents of small children who are wondering why their sex lives took a detour once the baby arrived! Complimentary refreshments. The Sexy Moms Series is jointly sponsored by New Space for Women’s Health. Register now
Seattle, Washington
July
Babeland Brunch Series: Bottoms Up
Sunday, July 5, 11:00am
All butts like stimulation, so whether you want to unlock the secrets of prostate pleasure, or simply explore backdoor eroticism, Babeland’s Sex Educators tell you everything you need to get started. We will demystify common myths, address cleanliness concerns and suggest the best toys for beginners. Contact store for more information
Blitz, Capitol Hill Arts Walk Featuring Crystal Barbre
Thursday, July 9, 5:00pm
Crystal Barbre seeks to express our primal connection to nature and how it affects our spirit, our behavior, and our sexuality. Barbre juxtaposes references from pornography and the animal kingdom to explore the questions of what it means to be a human animal in a civilized world. Her paintings are a commentary on the role of women in society as sexual fantasies while also celebrating the powerful force of female sexuality. Contact store for more information
Sex Toys for Couples
Sunday, July 19, 7:00pm
Ignite your sex play with some of the new sex toys designed especially for couples. Discover hands-free stimulation explore spontaneity with remote vibrators, or take phone sex to new heights. Butt toys, strap-ons, and sensual treats will also be covered in this toy tour led by Babeland Sex Educators. Contact store for more information
August
Kinky Toys
Wednesday, August 19, 7:00pm
Spank! Tickle! Tease! Delight! Learn the basics of kinky toys, from restraints to clamps to floggers. Sensation toys are easy to incorporate into your sex life and can add a lot of fun, plus a higher level of trust and understanding between you and a partner. Contact store for more information
Babeland is currently running an awesome promotion that I wanted to share with everyone. From now until May 22 you can receive up to $30 off of any purchase you make through Babeland.com.
Babeland is a feminist-friendly, woman-owned adult store that really knows women and what women really want when it comes to sex toys, DVDs, and erotica.
Masturbation is a healthy part of every person’s life. Even as part of a relationship and while maintaining a healthy sex life, self-love still plays a healthy role in one’s life.
People start exploring their bodies at very young ages; from infant boys who every time you change a diaper, their hands are immediately exploring their penis and young girls who will mindlessly start exploring themselves whenever time permits. This is extremely healthy and positive behavior, but there are a great deal of people and organizations who beg to differ, going as far as to saying that any type of sexuality whatsoever, including masturbation, is unnatural, sinful, and just about anything else they can think of in order to scare people out of doing something that is natural and should be celebrated.
Jamye Waxman has a master’s degree in sex education and has written the book Getting Off, an entire guide to masturbation just for women–Or for men who want to know more about the body of a woman and pleasuring all of those sensual zones a woman has. Getting Off is an asset for every single woman, regardless of their knowledge of sexuality or their bodies. The book goes over several different topics, from the anatomy of an orgasm (the small, indifferent orgasm, the mediocre, satisfying-but-not-by-much orgasm, the can’t-get-enough, pass out afterward orgasm, and everything in between), fantasies, vibrators and other sex toys that can be used to heighten sexual pleasure while masturbating, how masturbation is viewed by mainstream media and the people who use the media as their only ground for knowledge, and so much more.
While reading through the different sections of the book, I was overjoyed to see a lot of the topics brought up that I didn’t expect to be brought up in such a refreshing light, such as the topic of anal sex and stimulation and how a great deal of women enjoy anal stimulation but feel too shy to explore the possibilities it can bring them sexually due to its social stigma as being referred to as strictly an exit. It also highlights a great deal of fun facts, such as the fact that graham crackers and Corn Flakes, food items that people eat to curb hunger, which in fact invented to curb masturbation, and the first vibrators were found in doctors’ offices to help cure women of “hysteria,” or what I deem as merely “sexual frustration” since the hysterical woman stereotype is still alive and going strong.
Getting Off is a resource that you will find yourself flipping through again and again, it is full of extremely positive and helpful information and completely obliterates the falsities that society and mainstream media have put in place for women, especially the “prudish woman” title or the belief that women cannot be sexual and sexually satisfying individuals.
One of the main reasons why I felt compelled to add a Love & Sex category to Woman Tribune is because I firmly believe that in order to maintain a long and healthy sex life with your partner, it is necessary to experiment with each other and one of the very best and most fulfilling ways to experiment is with sex toys. After years of having the same sexual partner, many people become almost immune to the touch of their partner. We come to know their thought patterns–How they are going to touch us, when they are going to touch us, and what is going to come next; it becomes almost robotic and you find yourself simply going through the motions of sex.
I believe that sex should be something that is enjoyed by all involved. It is not something you participate in to merely fill your “this is how many times normal couples have sex” quota; it is something to be enjoyed and is something you should be able to be completely open about; and that includes the right to experimentation.
Whether you have a sexual partner or you’re making love to yourself, good sex is something that can be achieved as long as you are completely open with your partner as well as with yourself. Introducing sex toys to your bedroom can turn your sex life from being a monotonous chore to steamy, can’t-get-enough sex. It isn’t just a myth that a good sex life can improve your mood as well as improve and even save your relationship or marriage. Some people I have spoken to do not necessarily agree with me when I tell them I believe that sex is a huge part of a healthy relationship, but I do honestly believe that; in my experience, a healthy sex life makes it much easier to have open lines of communication and an unshakable trust between the couple, both of which are proven to set the scene for a healthy and happy relationship.
By simply bringing an adult toy into your bedroom you are able to experiment and perhaps even be turned on to new things, which is exactly why adult toys are so popular. Even a simple vibrator can spice up your sex life more than you may think, especially a Rabbit Vibrator; one of the most popular and in-demand vibrators among women and once you see and feel it, you will immediately know how it has gotten such a great name for itself.
We bring up the topic of sex toys quite a bit. What toys are out there, what they do, how you can use them, how you can use them with your partner and so on. Now, when on the topic of sex toys, there is also this unspoken list of things to remember when operating light machinery and on that list is never, ever attach a sex toy to a saw blade.
You would think that would just be common knowledge, however, in Lexington Park, Maryland, a 27 year old woman was airlifted to Prince George’s County Hospital Center due to injuries caused by a sex toy attached to a saber saw blade.
The man who called 911 about the incident admitted attaching the sex toy to the saw and then using the high-powered, homemade device on his partner, according to the St. Mary’s County Sheriff’s Office.
The saw cut through the sex toy and wounded the woman. While the wounds were severe enough for immediate, emergency attention, the woman is now said to be home and recovering from her injuries. The woman is also on the record saying that the sexual acts were consensual, and that she and her partner were trying something new and no crime was committed.
I am willing to bet this woman will never allow her partner to think up fun things to try with sex toys again.
If you have ever spoken in depth with or been in a relationship with a survivor of abuse and trauma, one thing that you will come to know is that a great deal of survivors have a problem with not relationships in general, but with love and intimacy.
A lot of survivors have a difficult time with closeness with another person and find themselves having to teach themselves boundaries and when any of us run into a little trouble and need help, there are shelves full of psychological insight, self help books, audio books, films and so on at our disposal. Healing Sex is a DVD that at first glance, you would think is just like the rest of the “self help” market, but once you watch it, it has the potential to really change your life and the way you look at intimacy.
Staci Haines has vast experience as a workshop leader and somatic practitioner and presents hands on exercises for you to practice either alone or with your partner for battling a lot of hurdles that survivors deal with when it comes to intimacy, such as disassociating during sex which I, as well as a great deal of survivors I speak with now have had problems with in our adult lives. Haines welcomes you into her workshops and one-on-one sessions and works with people to help them set boundaries in relationships and intimacy and teaches them how to express their desires, likes and dislikes. She gives us so much knowledge and draws upon her extensive experience to present educational and often triggering material in a comfortable and accessible way that will make you actually want to open up to your partner, now that you know how.
This DVD did wonders for me. I absolutely loved the way in which the material was presented and I especially loved that Haines doesn’t think, act or teach with the sense of false hope that she is a miracle worker. Healing from any kind of trauma takes a long time and a great deal of dedicated, hard work and the effects of childhood sexual assault have a tendency to follow survivors throughout their entire lives. This film shows you realistic ways to cope with your past and your present in terms of intimacy and overall relationships.
We have been featuring articles and items from Babeland in our Love & Sex category and we know we are not alone when we say that we love Babeland. Throughout the past 15 years, they have made quite the impression on the people in the cities their stores are located as well as on the people who frequent their website and I cannot think of a better place to purchase those intimate items your loved one will go crazy about.
Anyone who has ever shopped online knows you sometimes end up paying an astronomical amount in shipping and in some cases, is a deal breaker once you see the shipping charges and for that reason, Babeland is offering absolutely free shipping with purchases over $50 and some awesome deals and ideas for stocking stuffers with an entire section dedicated to items under $30.
Sexuality is something to be celebrated and explored and we hope to help you do just that with the articles and reviews we publish in our love and sex category.
A few months ago I was contacted via Twitter by a delightful and enthusiastic woman who was the blogger outreach and off-site review program coordinator from Eden Fantasys. Because a company is only as good as the person whom you have direct contact with, and because this woman was just downright awesome, I began a partnership between Woman Tribune and Eden Fantasys. I immediately began hosting contests for gift cards, reviewing products for our love and sex category, putting up their banners and telling all of my friends about how great their site was. I sent a lot of people to Eden Fantasys who spent a lot of money.
Every month 
Masturbation is a healthy part of every person’s life. Even as part of a relationship and while maintaining a healthy sex life, self-love still plays a healthy role in one’s life.
While reading through the different sections of the book, I was overjoyed to see a lot of the topics brought up that I didn’t expect to be brought up in such a refreshing light, such as the topic of anal sex and stimulation and how a great deal of women enjoy anal stimulation but feel too shy to explore the possibilities it can bring them sexually due to its social stigma as being referred to as strictly an exit. It also highlights a great deal of fun facts, such as the fact that graham crackers and Corn Flakes, food items that people eat to curb hunger, which in fact invented to curb masturbation, and the first vibrators were found in doctors’ offices to help cure women of “hysteria,” or what I deem as merely “sexual frustration” since the hysterical woman stereotype is still alive and going strong.
We bring up the topic of sex toys quite a bit. What toys are out there, what they do, how you can use them, how you can use them with your partner and so on. Now, when on the topic of sex toys, there is also this unspoken list of things to remember when operating light machinery and on that list is never, ever attach a sex toy to a saw blade.
If you have ever spoken in depth with or been in a relationship with a survivor of abuse and trauma, one thing that you will come to know is that a great deal of survivors have a problem with not relationships in general, but with love and intimacy.
