Family, Our Other New Category
When starting this site, I did not want to be a blog. I have never been a “I woke up this morning and ate a bowl of Cheerios.” blogger and did not want to become one, but upon reviewing this site the other night, I realized that I did want to be a little more personal here. I by no means lead a boring life, especially when it comes to my “family issues,” and that is exactly what I have decided to start writing about here!
By family, I do not mean parents, sisters, grandparents or what you would mostly think of when thinking about family. I am also not talking about husbands or children–At least not my children.
For those who have read a bit of this site, I talk about my partner quite a bit. We have been together for two years and seven months, although he will tell you “two years and something,” and in those two years and something, we have been through quite a number of ups, downs and sideways! Oh, and did I mention that he when we met, he was married and had two kids? And that happens to be a big part of our downs. I have went through a variety of stages when it comes to his marriage, his divorce, ex-wife and most of all, the fact that he has two kids.
Through our years together, after we hit about a year and a half we started to really talk about marriage, buying a house, having kids and doing the whole family thing and since then, nothing has changed except for the fact that we talk about it more and more and we have already decided that not only are we happy together, but we are seemingly perfect for each other and that our “happily ever after” plans are going to happen.
So what does a 21 year old woman do when her 30 year old soon-to-be husband is divorced, has two kids and she has the “Evil Stepmother” title looming over her head? Well you’ll soon find out because the new category, family, will contain all of my thoughts, stress, obstacles and hopefully the triumph of becoming a good and happy stepmother.
Stay tuned…
J on Thu, 22nd May 2008 1:07 am
Oh wow. I can hardly deal with ex-GIRLFRIENDS. Ex wives + kids. Super daunting! I wish you luck! Sounds like you’re happy now, so it will hopefully continue that way.
zo hai on Thu, 22nd May 2008 8:46 am
Haha. Not all stepmothers are bad. =) And not all relationships are as complicated as some. Yeah it seems that you’re happy now and I’m glad to hear that.
Anna K on Thu, 22nd May 2008 12:49 pm
No one is perfect, not even your original family, wife or husband. I always seem to find it interesting that any single family has *some* kind of issue and problem here and there. If husband looks great, then the opposite seems to be harsh, and so on… well, keep it up! Don’t let it go.
Myfinancebutler on Thu, 22nd May 2008 9:57 pm
Wow that is a tough situation to be in. I would stay positive though, because I grew up under the care of my stepmother, and in the beginning, because of my fear and insecurity, I could not accept her well, but we ironed things out through the years as I matured, and now we have a great relationship.
Keistian Liebrand on Fri, 23rd May 2008 4:47 am
I always seem to find it interesting that any single family has some kind of issue and problem here and there. If husband looks great, then it would be amazing.
Polina on Fri, 23rd May 2008 11:40 am
Oh, my… it is hard… I wouldn’t find enough strength in me to become a step-mom and the second wife for a man, and i would go mad if I need to become an ex-wife one day… I know women who become friends with husband’s ex-wife and they care of children together… absolutely impossible it seems to be (for me)
Freeroll on Sat, 24th May 2008 10:52 pm
I wish you good luck and hopefully you will be able to live a good life with your hubby-to-be and your stepkids..
Seo Firm on Fri, 6th Jun 2008 4:29 pm
That is a tough situation to be in, especially for a 21 year old woman! You will find strength that you thought you never had through this, and you will emerge a better person. Life has a way of working out, even if we don’t expect it to.
Prescription Drug Addictions on Thu, 12th Jun 2008 1:09 am
I do believe that you will triumph — and you will be glad that you went through this ordeal. Things happen for a reason, and probably life wanted to show you something really significant that will help you in future challenges.
Rugsdoneright on Mon, 23rd Jun 2008 2:44 pm
Don’t let the past mistakes and challenges rob you of your future. Just keep on being positive and everything will work out.
Life Coach News on Mon, 7th Jul 2008 3:54 am
Sometimes we get so jaded that fairy tales become but inventions that entertain children. But “happily ever after” does exist – if we believe it in hard enough — and we have the faith that carries us through hard times.