1/365 Days: Moregasm

January has already come and gone, and with it are the New Year’s resolutions that have already been lost. This year, more than any other year before, I noticed more and more people making New Year’s resolutions for their blogging life, rather than their day-to-day, and a great deal of those bloggers are still going strong. Two of my favorite, favorite bloggers have both been achieving the same resolution, and that is to participate in (and hopefully finish) the 365 Days project on Flickr.

For the past month I have seen both of these bloggers take a self-portrait and post it on their blogs each and every single day and it has been an awesomely eye-opening experience as the blog reader, to get a glimpse into the lives of the people behind some of my favorite blogs. It only took a month of me almost obsessively visiting these blogs just to see their new 365 self-portraits to want to join in on the fun, and so February 1st marks my official start with 365 Days. Woman Tribune has a brand new Flickr account (so be sure to connect with us over there,) and with this, I will also be blogging on a personal level once a day, which is something very new for me to be doing on Woman Tribune. As anyone who reads us regularly, personal anecdotes are weaved through a lot of the posts, but it is very rare for me to be uncensored and unapologetically open, so giving you all a more intimate, if you will, look at my day-to-day life is something that is actually very exciting for me to be dabbling with and I hope you all enjoy your daily look into my life.

For the first day of the 365 Days project, I wanted to share a little morsel of awesomeness I had become aware of a little over a month ago, and that is the new book from Babeland–Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex. This book is a sex advice, sex tips, how-to and self help book all rolled into one. It cuts through the traditional taboos society had already put in place for us a long, long time ago. It opens up discussions on sexual relationships when you’re trans, which is what I was first so giddily happy about when I had first opened it. Usually, when the topic of sex and sexuality comes up on a blog, we have a tendency to speak about sexual relationships as if they only happen between cisgendered beings, but what happens when someone just so happens to have been born with male genitalia but is truly a woman? This book opens up that discussion, which I loved. It of course features a great deal of sex toys, which is only natural for a book put out by a feminist-friendly sex toy shop whose ultimate goal is to sell more sex toys. It contains a multitude of sections on different sexual practices, lifestyles and bedroom play including, but not limited to, BDSM play and anal play. However, please remember that if you engage in any type of BDSM/bondage play, to do with a partner you know and trust and to have a safe word. It also covers practicing safe sex and how to be the safest you can possibly be when engaging in any type of sexual act, and a Q&A section that answers all of those pesky and sometimes embarrassing questions you may have about sex, like ‘Hey, what was that sound and is it supposed to come out of there?’ This book is definitely a must-read for any sexual being, regardless of age, sexual orientation, gender identity, or relationship status.

I went into a little more detail about Moregasm in a video review I recorded for my other blog, Menstrual Poetry, which deals with mostly feminist issues and activism. You can check out the video review of Moregasm here.

Don’t Get Stuck in a Sticky Situation

Bondage can be a great experience between two consenting adults who of course, trust each other to the point where bondage can be an exciting, positive experience. Most people who don’t know much about bondage or who have thought about it but haven’t read up on it too much yet may think that a lot more goes into bondage play than what actually does.

When it comes to restraints, there are many different options available. Many people don’t want to handle heavy, difficult equipment, especially those just starting out in their bondage experiences. The thought of this type of play may scare someone who has never engaged in it to begin with and the last thing someone of this nature wants to have to maneuver is heavy equipment and rope has a tendency to dig into your wrists and ankles, leaving them raw and sore for hours or even days after. Tape is another viable option, but who wants to rip tape off of their bodies after play time is over? No one! It’s like ripping off 100 band-aids at the same time! But now there’s a new type of bondage tape available that has eased more people into bondage play with their partners and has been satisfying bondage enthusiasts just the same.

This bondage tape is unique in the sense that it clings to nothing but itself. No more ripping tape off of your skin or out of your hair and pulling a few hundred strands of hair out with it. No more ropes cutting off your circulation and digging into your skin and no need for heavy and complicated equipment. This small product will satisfy any couple engaging in bondage play–Enthusiasts and beginners both will have an overall pleasurable experience with this lightweight, quick, easy, and reusable 2″ wide tape.

For just $20 this bondage tape is an absolute steal. You receive an abundant amount and the tape is also reusable so you are sure not to run out for quite some time. The tape does come off very easily and does not affect your skin whatsoever since there is no sticky glue anywhere. The tape clings to itself very easily and is extremely secure so when you’re in the heat of the moment, the tape isn’t going to budge; I’ve had under the bed restraints that didn’t work as well as this tape because this tape doesn’t break and if it does, I haven’t reached it’s breaking point yet.

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Please remember that whenever engaging in any variation of bondage play to only participate with a partner you know and trust and to use a safe word so your partner knows if and when you need to stop.

The Multi-Orgasmic Man

On the topic of sex, most men will say that the act and finishing touch, in particular, is a bit unfair. After sex, my partner will complain that I had multiple orgasms, can’t move and demand a sandwich afterward while he had one orgasm. I can argue that perhaps my multiple orgasms are the equivalent to his one, but I wouldn’t know since I am not a man and admittedly have no idea what the male orgasm feels like. I do, however, know that having multiple orgasms is a gift that I would love for him to be able to share with me. While a huge percentage of men simply believe that having multiple orgasms is impossible, I have a secret to share with you that has the ability to rock your world; especially if you’re a man–All men have the ability to achieve multiple orgasms.

For the man who believes male multiple orgasms are impossible or for men who have heard about these mysterious male multiple orgasms and want to know more (ie: my partner) I couldn’t recommend The Prostate Pleasure Kit from Babeland more.

The Prostate Pleasure Kit contains everything your man (or you, if you’re reading this and happen to be a man) needs for complete prostate pleasure and achieve multiple orgasms: The classic sex guide The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia & Douglas Abrams, The Aneros Prostate Stimulator, Maximus lube, Babeland’s favorite anal lube in fact, and Rocket Balm, good (and safe) for a nice, tingly feeling during masturbation, oral sex and even intercourse.

If you’re thinking to yourself “Ha! My husband/boyfriend/manfriend/life partner would never let anything near his butt; it just isn’t happening and what, exactly, does prostate pleasure have to do with multiple orgasms?” I have to tell you, my partner was just as apprehensive! With the looming fear of pain as well as the fear of bodily functions, a man may think to himself at first “Nope, not happening. Ever. Get it all away from me.” But perhaps after reading through the book that comes with this kit, The Multi-Orgasmic Man, they may be even more curious about prostate pleasure and perhaps even get over the initial fear and anxiety that comes with something being near their prostate.

The Multi-Orgasmic Man is a complete guide of sexual secrets of every should know. This book gives every man the ability to experience multiple orgasms and dramatically enhance his sexual relationship, which they have printed on the cover of the book. Within the first few days of having this book, me and my partner read through parts of it together and it really brought us closer together in our relationship because I began to fully understand how everything works when it comes to men; most of which I wasn’t aware of before. If you’re not one to accompany your man while he reads through this book, there is a section specifically for women which helps women fully understand how the foreign male parts work and how to help your partner as well as yourself become a multi-orgasmic person. The book and prostate tools that come with this kit go together very well because throughout the book it speaks of the prostate, how to fully know yourself as a man inside and out and gives you methods to use in order to prolong orgasms by holding the prostate. By using the prostate toys that come with the kit, you become more aware of reaching the point of no return.

The partner’s thoughts:

The book is very well written and covers both sides of the techniques given in the book to achieve multiple orgasms; spirituality as well as logic and physiology. As a person who leans more towards the logical and scientific side of things, it was nice to have scientific facts back up Asian spirituality.

While my partner isn’t a multi-orgasmic man yet, the journey to multiple orgasms will be broken up into a series that will outline his progress and eventual success, so be sure to check back frequently because you never know when he will hit a milestone that will need to be reported to our readers, especially those who are men looking to achieve multiple orgasms. Consider subscribing to our RSS feed so you don’t miss anything!

The Essential Couple Toy

Foreplay is an essential part of a couple’s sex life; without it, you run the risk of not really being fully “there” during sex or coming up short–literally. Without the art form of foreplay, sex has a tendency to do a whole lot of nothing; for us women, anyway.

And so I present to you lovely ladies out there looking for just a little something to spice up the act before intercourse or something just a whole lot of fun to play around with–The Remote Butterfly from Babeland.

The butterfly is worn by a woman the same way panties are, just slip your legs through the elastic straps and pull the butterfly up to you so it rests just the way you like it. The remote control ranges from 15 to 20 feet so even if you and your partner aren’t in the same room, you can still enjoy tingling sensations the butterfly sends to your clitoris and know that your partner is thinking of you when they press that magical button on the remote.

With a range of 15 to 20 feet, the Remote Butterfly sets up a whole new range of options for play time and not only that, but play time can now be done virtually anywhere; and that is the first thing I thought of when I had first stumbled across this product. Imagine the possibilities! Perhaps you and your partner need a date night–After even a few months of living together, couples sometimes fall into the pattern of wearing sweatpants all the time or just not really paying a lot of attention to themselves anymore because hey, it’s your house too and you’re going to be comfortable! I am the same, exact way; hell, it’s a special occasion if I get out of the shower and don’t put pajamas right back on. So for you couples out there like my boyfriend and I who really need a date night every once in a while, why not strap the butterfly on under your dress or your pants? It can be worn under your panties or you can really spice your night up and skip the underwear completely. When in use, the butterfly sounds exactly like a cell phone on vibrate, so using it in a movie theater is a fabulous idea, perhaps to dinner if the restaurant is a little loud, or even a bar. The possibilities are virtually endless; running errands will never be the same again, just imagine asking your partner to go grocery shopping with you and if they refuse, hand them the remote and I bet their tune changes.

The first time the boyfriend and I had the pleasure of using it, we decided that because I am always working–and I mean always, it was about time that I was given a little reward for all of my hard work and not just that, but work needed to be fun again. I’m a freelancer and work from home on the computer, so sitting at a computer all day can be one of the most mundane tasks there are and the afternoon we used the butterfly throughout the day was surprisingly the one day in the past few weeks where I actually got a ton of work done. See, a little motivation goes a long way!

The vibrations the butterfly releases on your clit are described by Babeland to be medium-strength and while it is a pleasant feeling, the vibrations weren’t enough for me to be brought to orgasm; however, it did work phenomenally to bring me to full arousal, which can sometimes take a little while for most women anyway.

The only thing that I don’t like about this product is that the batteries go way, way too fast, so if you have rechargeable AAA batteries, stock up. The elastic waist works great, but the butterfly may need to be adjusted every now and then because it really does its best work while tucked “inside” so it has a direct connection with your clit.

Overall, this product is great and definitely something I would recommend to anyone wanting to either spice up their love life or want something that can be worn discreetly and allows you to have some fun alone time and engage in some kick ass partnered, foreplay. Although, on the con side of this vibrator, the vibrations are just enough to bring you to the level of being incredibly turned on, but it didn’t pack enough punch to get me “over the edge.”

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Babeland Knows Women

When you think of sex shops, most often you’re probably thinking of shady-looking shops off the corner of a highway with a large “Do not come in here unless you are over 21 years of age” sign on the front of an entrance that looks more like a garage door. These shops are also the ones that have those creepy private booths in the back that most definitely cannot be too hygienic, given what men do in there. These are the sex stores that are targeted more towards men and of course, are the standard because only men like sex, right? Wrong!

The success of these types of shops can only be measured by the amount of competition surrounding them, which in most cases aren’t many, if any at all. If you live in a suburban neighborhood, you most likely have one sex toy store in your area or even one shop for several areas and of course, these are the “male-ego” shops; the shops with jizz rooms, blow up dolls and many, many videos all building up the fantasies that women enjoy sex with their twin sisters, having cum adorn every inch of their faces and several, several different men at the same time.

As a woman who lives in a town with no sex toy shops whatsoever and having to drive an hour to the nearest one, which of course is a disgusting-looking shop catered to men, I wondered, isn’t there a place out there that doesn’t objectify women? A place that celebrates the libido and doesn’t treat it like something dirty that women should be ashamed of, but for men, it’s the standard? I wanted a place that had the nerve to treat me as sexual being and as a woman without objectifying me.

Because of the status of the standard shops, I normally look online for any bedroom toys I may be interested in purchasing and because of that, I stumbled upon Babeland.

The title alone may lead men to think “Oh wow, hot sexy babes? I’m in!” and for women, it could make you think “Babeland! Woman land! My land!” which is what is what I first thought. Their website alone is very woman-oriented. It’s sleek, shiny, it doesn’t have ads or pictures of women dressed in bondage and being treated purely as sex objects so their man can have a good time. It’s straight forward, but has a womanly touch, which is to be expected since Babeland was founded by women for women with the motto Sex toys for a passionate world.

With their fifth store opening nation-wide in Brooklyn, New York, positioned in between a maternity store called Bump and an organic restaurant that sells an herbal formula to boost your libido, Babeland gave the press a deeper look into what Babeland is all about.

They are a woman-friendly store where strollers are welcome, there is a baby changing station in the restroom, kids are more than welcome, the founder being a mother herself, since the store is set up so nicely and so friendly that kids are welcome due to the inconspicuously detailed products. They also have events scheduled which include seminars for women on sexuality and body image, private workshops and parties. It does not get any better than Babeland.